The People of North Carolina joined the People of more than 30 other States Tuesday by voting to amend their State Constitution adding the definition of Marriage. The People of my own State of Minnesota will make that decision in November.
Virtually all headlines reporting the North Carolina result screamed, North Carolina Bans Gay Marriage. Well, no they didn’t. They just agreed with the definition of marriage. My dictionary on marriage:
MAR’RIAGE, n. [L.mas, maris.] The act of uniting a man and woman for life; wedlock; the legal union of a man and woman for life. Marriage is a contract both civil and religious, by which the parties engage to live together in mutual affection and fidelity, till death shall separate them. Marriage was instituted by God himself for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and education of children.
Some dictionaries leave out the God part. The amendments all simply add the definition of marriage to the constitutions. There is no banning of anything.
Whatever a contract between a man and a man or a woman and a woman might be, by definition it is not marriage.
But, as you know, the President weighed in Wednesday with his own “evolving” towards “Gay Marriage.” The fraud media was as universal in praising the President for his courage as they were in mischaracterizing the North Carolina vote. Here is what the President wrote to his “followers” Wednesday:
Today, I was asked a direct question and gave a direct answer:
I believe that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry.
I hope you’ll take a moment to watch the conversation, consider it, and weigh in yourself on behalf of marriage equality:
I’ve always believed that gay and lesbian Americans should be treated fairly and equally. I was reluctant to use the term marriage because of the very powerful traditions it evokes. And I thought civil union laws that conferred legal rights upon gay and lesbian couples were a solution.
But over the course of several years I’ve talked to friends and family about this. I’ve thought about members of my staff in long-term, committed, same-sex relationships who are raising kids together. Through our efforts to end the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy, I’ve gotten to know some of the gay and lesbian troops who are serving our country with honor and distinction.
What I’ve come to realize is that for loving, same-sex couples, the denial of marriage equality means that, in their eyes and the eyes of their children, they are still considered less than full citizens.
Even at my own dinner table, when I look at Sasha and Malia, who have friends whose parents are same-sex couples, I know it wouldn’t dawn on them that their friends’ parents should be treated differently.
So I decided it was time to affirm my personal belief that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry.
I respect the beliefs of others, and the right of religious institutions to act in accordance with their own doctrines. But I believe that in the eyes of the law, all Americans should be treated equally. And where states enact same-sex marriage, no federal act should invalidate them.
If you agree, you can stand up with me here.
We commentators rarely get such a bountiful field from which to harvest. We may write again here about “equality” which is found on the same shelf as “fairness.” For today, let us look at definitions and meanings; let us call on an expert given birth from the pen of Lewis Carroll.
Humpty Dumpty to Alice, “. . . . there are three hundred and sixty-four days when you might get un-birthday presents —’
‘Certainly,’ said Alice.
‘And only one for birthday presents, you know. There’s glory for you!’
‘I don’t know what you mean by “glory”,’ Alice said.
Humpty Dumpty smiled contemptuously. ‘Of course you don’t — till I tell you. I meant “there’s a nice knock-down argument for you!”‘
‘But “glory” doesn’t mean “a nice knock-down argument”,’ Alice objected.
‘When I use a word,’ Humpty Dumpty said, in rather a scornful tone, ‘it means just what I choose it to mean — neither more nor less.’
‘The question is,’ said Alice, ‘whether you can make words mean so many different things.’
‘The question is,’ said Humpty Dumpty, ‘which is to be master — that’s all.’
This is precisely what is going on here. Ducks, not chickens, shall hatch from chicken eggs when the masters of this brave new world declare they shall. Chickens, not complying, will be labeled bigots standing in the way of fairness and equality. Don’t buy it. Call them on it now and every time the try it.